The bedroom is a place for R&R (that’s rest and relaxation). But there’s a third R that should never be forgotten: Romance! These simple tips will help you transform your bedroom into a place that is peaceful, relaxing and romantic. The key here is that you want your bedroom to be a calming, intimate space that’s not full of distractions and clutter. Here are our top tips.
1. Make Your Bed Inviting
The bed is the centre of the bedroom, and making your bed feel like a comfortable and welcoming space can make all the difference in maintaining intimacy. Sleep quality is also a huge factor, as poor sleep can put a big drain on a relationships. So to make your bed the best it can be, start with the foundations, and work up. Mattresses matter! People have different needs when it comes to the firmness of mattresses, so it’s important to find a mattress that works for both of you. And if one likes it hard and one likes it soft, don’t worry! There are mattresses that let you adjust the softness or hardness on each side the mattress to conform to the user. In any case, you spend a big chunk of your life in bed, so it’s worth investing in a good mattress. And if you’ve been sleeping on the same mattress for a year or more, it may be time for a healthy mattress clean! Mattresses absorb sweat, body odours, and are the favourite home for dust mites. Not sexy! If your mattress is smelling a bit musty, it’s time to get Electrodry in to come get your mattress back to its original healthy state.
As well as your mattress, it’s worthwhile investing in bedding that creates a comfortable and peaceful bedroom environment. This means putting some thought into your sheets, blankets and doonas. Think about comfort, but also about what kind of mood you want to create in the room. My husband and I opted for dark blues, greens and browns, going for forest/earthy colours to create a room that’s easy on the eyes, and cosy to be in.
Digital Distractions
Did you know that being on your computer or phone right before bed can have harmful impacts on your sleep? Screens work to keep your brain active and awake, making it hard to drift off. On top of that, the blue light emitted by the screen blocks melatonin, the hormone that controls your sleep cycle. That means that if you’re checking emails, playing phone games or scrolling through social media right before bed, there’s a good chance you’ll find it harder to fall asleep and stay asleep. So if you want to sleep better, try switching off your digital devices at least half an hour before bed.
The other reason you might want to ban electronics from the bedroom is that they are a huge intimacy killer! If you and your partner are in the habit of scrolling through Facebook when you’re in bed together, it means you’re not engaging with each other. You’ll find that if you go to bed with fewer distractions, this can be a great time to build and maintain the intimacy that is vital to any relationship. And if you have busy work schedules and kids, this might be the only time you have to really connect! Don’t waste it on Twitter!
Be Sophisticated
Bringing a little sophistication into your bedroom décor is quite sexy in itself ….make your bedroom classy but without going over the top and you’ll find that you and your partner will want to spend more time there!Sensual Scent
Nasty smells are a quick way to kill the sexy mood. So be sure to deodorise the bedroom. Start with the sheets, mattress, furniture, air conditioning, carpet, and rugs. Regular cleaning and deodorising should keep your bedroom free from odour. An added plus is you get to breathe healthier air during sleep.Avoid using toxic air fresheners and pest repellents. Use safe and natural products to clear the air of odours and pests. There are many resources on the internet to guide you on how to make your own safe and cheap products. Avoid adding toxic air to the bedroom.
Lighting Sets the Mood
Update to wallet-friendly LED bulbs. Some LED bulbs will even let you dim the lights down via a smartphone app. This saves you the hassle of installing dimmer switches.
LED bulbs will also cut down on the heat in the bedroom, you can create that on your own. Right?
Sound Sleeping
Once you eliminate the noise, you can then replace it with background music to suit the mood. Forget the CD player as you don’t want to keep getting up just to change the disc. Music streaming services like Spotify have an extensive library of playlists to suit your every mood. Just set it and forget about it.
Clean is Sexy
Less clutter, less stress. Besides, a well-organised bedroom should help you focus on the more important things.
That icky mould stain on the wall? Not sexy. The cracker crumbs on the mattress? Not sexy. The musty urine stain on the carpet? The total opposite of sexy! So get things cleaned, cleared, and organised for a sexier bedroom.
Inviting Bed
People have different tastes. Some like it soft while some like it hard -- the mattress, I mean! Yes, if couples are to share a bed together (as they should!), they need to reach a compromise on how soft or hard the mattress should be. Go to do store together and try a few mattresses to find which works for both of you.
If it doesn’t seem like you’re going to find a common ground (or mattress), don’t fret. There are mattresses that let you adjust the softness or hardness on each side the mattress to conform to the user.
Of course, a clean and odour free mattress should be your prerogative to enjoy intimate pillow talk or more.
Digital Distractions
If you want some sexy time, do it in the office! That’s not what I meant! The bedroom should be off-limits to work. Do your work in the office or your study. If your bedroom has a workspace, close down the laptop and shut it off. You don’t want constantly blinking lights to intrude on your quality time.
Make it a point to cut down on digital distractions in the bedroom. Gradually find a way to unplug from digital bombardment by setting notifications on silent, not checking your emails, or setting a time limit for social media consumption in bed.
Be Sophisticated
Bringing a little sophistication into your bedroom décor is quite sexy in itself ….make your bedroom classy but without going over the top and you’ll find that you and your partner will want to spend more time there!
Sensual Scent
Nasty smells are a quick way to kill the sexy mood. So be sure to deodorise the bedroom. Start with the sheets, mattress, furniture, air conditioning, carpet, and rugs. Regular cleaning and deodorising should keep your bedroom free from odour. An added plus is you get to breathe healthier air during sleep.
Avoid using toxic air fresheners and pest repellents. Use safe and natural products to clear the air of odours and pests. There are many resources on the internet to guide you on how to make your own safe and cheap products. Avoid adding toxic air to the bedroom.
Lighting Sets the Mood
The correct lighting can help people become more productive, more relaxed or stimulated. Depending on the lighting. You can add a relaxing and romantic ambience to your bedroom with a simple flip of the switch.
Update to wallet-friendly LED bulbs. Some LED bulbs will even let you dim the lights down via a smartphone app. This saves you the hassle of installing dimmer switches.
LED bulbs will also cut down on the heat in the bedroom, you can create that on your own. Right?
Sound Sleeping
Noise is both distracting and intrusive and the bedroom is no place for it. Not only will noise make it hard to get some sleep, but it can also dampen your sexy mood. Cut down on the noises in the bedroom by installing thick curtains, foam furniture, and carpeting.
Once you eliminate the noise, you can then replace it with background music to suit the mood. Forget the CD player as you don’t want to keep getting up just to change the disc. Music streaming services like Spotify have an extensive library of playlists to suit your every mood. Just set it and forget about it.
Clean is Sexy
Messy is not sexy, and it never will be! Clear the bedroom of needless clutter and organise everything. Sophisticated is sexy … living in a pig sty isn’t!
Less clutter, less stress. Besides, a well-organised bedroom should help you focus on the more important things.
That icky mould stain on the wall? Not sexy. The cracker crumbs on the mattress? Not sexy. The musty urine stain on the carpet? The total opposite of sexy! So get things cleaned, cleared, and organised for a sexier bedroom.